Some random thoughts looming over my head these days:
~ I have spent last winter attending weddings. I still have one more to go. Phew! I also have friends around me who haven’t ‘bitten the dust’ yet and are perennially worried about the precarious situation they are stuck in. People around them constantly pestering them about their marital status and the importance of the ‘right’ age, the dangers of ‘higher’ education and the ‘perils’ of an ambitious career for a girl. But is it worth worrying yourself sick about your personal life which doesn’t meet the standards set out by society? Stop living your life to the fullest because you are not married? Or worse, get married for the sake of getting married? Or the worst, beg someone to marry you since you are crumbling under societal pressure? (Hellooo self respect, where have I lost you!)
~ There is baby bloom all around. People around me, including my cook, ask me when will I ‘do’ babies and ‘start’ family. I don’t feel the need or the desire to have one (well for the moment that is). Does that make me selfish? According to the Pope it is and this is coming from a man who doesn’t have any kids of his own! Have I not done a noble thing by sparing a life from coming into this world and joining the rat race? Have I not done a noble thing by sparing humanity from one more rat competing with it for the limited and rapidly depleting resources?
~ a couple of people around me are on a sabbatical. I am proud of such people – the ability to not have your job define you. But then everyone around you seems to be extremely concerned that you don’t have a job, so much so that you will end up spending your sabbatical looking for a new job! Isn’t a break from a job the reason why you took a sabbatical? And shouldn’t Indian firms, which emulate western working culture, take a leaf out of their HR manual and permit sabbaticals for reasons other than pregnancy and sickness.
Don’t let society dictate terms on how you live your life. Get married if you want to but MARRY RIGHT- when your relationship is in trouble, the same society will derive sadistic pleasure listening to your misery. Have kids if you want to but PARENT RIGHT- you are responsible for the life you bring into this world, have expectations, but try to not impose your aspirations and dreams on those rats. Please also train your boys to cook, clean and respect women. Tell your girls that it is not ok for anyone to treat her disrespectfully. Take that sabbatical but PLAN RIGHT- learn a new language, pick up a new skill, volunteer, travel- do all those things which you promised yourself when you were your slogging yourself at your desk!